Wednesday, June 1, 2011

The pain of miscarriage

Last night I read about my dear friend Augusta's miscarriage.  As sadness filled my heart I have thought what can I do?  What can I say?  How can I convey my love and concern for her, her husband, and her friend who donated a precious egg who are all mourning this loss?

I suppose I will simply write that my heart goes out to her and to all who had such hope and joy in the arrival of their child.  As I mourned this loss I returned to the age old question of:  Why?  To which I say, I don't know.  I only hope there will be people close to Augusta and her husband who can be sensitive and kind to them during this painful time in their life.

I did read a few articles from my church's website this morning about miscarriage, that helped me learn more about the pain it brings.  I also read an article about one woman's story of what she learned while bedridden during a pregnancy that ultimately resulted in a miscarriage.  I will add those links should anyone like to read them.

Easing the pain of miscarriage: How can you help when a loved one is suffering?
The unconfined heart: sometimes our struggles increase our ability to care

Augusta has such a big heart and has been a dear friend to me on my blog.  In fact, while she is mourning her loss, she still visited my blog to comment on a recent post about my little boy.  She is strong, compassionate, and kind.  I hope you will visit her blog and let her know you care about her.


  1. Thank you for your kind words and your immense compassion, dearest Jana. You have been a such a loving and supportive friend to me. Thank you for sharing our sorrow. It makes the load lighter to share it with those who care about us.
    Of course I posted a comment about your son's first tooth. Through the sorrow, somehow my heart is still able to feel joy for others. I am trying to keep this ol' heart of mine open, because as you have said so well in some of your posts in the last year, joy is there all around us and it is up to us to open our eyes and see it. When I see how, after so much heart ache and sorrow, your son arrived in your lives, I know there is immense goodness in the world and it brings me hope. So I will continue to read your blog and continue to be your friend.

  2. I couldn't agree more, Augusta is such a kind compassionate person it broke my heart to hear of her loss. She has been on my heart and mind often since last week and am continuing to pray for strength as they move forward from this painful loss.