At work this week, I have told a few coworkers about our plans to adopt.
Each time I had to make a conscious decision to tell them. Once I made the decision though, it was easier than I thought. Since my exciting "adoption announcement" I have realized that I can set the tone of the conversation when my family plans come up by how I react.
The first conversation this week occurred when a good friend who knows my infertile history told me she had a good story to tell me. She then proceeded to tell me that someone she knew adopted a child and then shortly thereafter got pregnant. Another coworker chimed in, "that always happens". I groaned inwardly and outwardly, and said, "no, that doesn't always happen, but I'm glad it did for this person". Then my friend said, "I'm not saying you have to adopt to get pregnant, I just wanted to share a happy story with you." I thanked her, and then said, "well actually, my hubby and I are trying to adopt." She got so excited and was so happy for me. I was happy I had shared this exciting news with these 2 coworkers.
The second conversation occurred today. I was working with some coworkers I don't usually work with and out of the blue one of them asked me, "so when are you going to have kids?" This question can just make me cringe sometimes. But today I simply said, "we don't know, but we are trying to adopt, so hopefully soon." This coworker didn't say anything else, and not another word was said to me about my family plans that day. That was fine. I would've been nice if she had said, "cool, I hope it happens soon." But she didn't and that's okay. I was glad I had shared my news without feeling awkward.
I guess that might mean I'm making progress--I hope I didn't just jinx myself.