Thursday, July 8, 2010

The cat's out of the bag

Ok, I took a big plunge and just sent a letter off to our families telling about you hopes of adopting.  I was a bit nervous about his step, but it had to happen, and we did it for the sake of helping our child's birthparents find us.  Nothing in this journey is like the fertile world's where you shout "SURPRISE, I'm prego!" Our timeline is much different than that.  When I was doing IVF everyone knew that in 2 weeks I would know if I was pregnant or not.  There was no surprise announcement.  Now with adoption, this announcement becomes completely different.  A part of me had secretly hoped I could just show up with my adopted baby and say "SURPRISE! Here we are!"  That would've been quite an announcement.  But that's not the way it works, and that's okay.

Anyhow, that was quite a long paragraph I wrote all about the fact that we sent this letter out.
Here is what we wrote:

Dear Family,

We wanted to write you a letter to let you know that R and I are pursuing adoption in hopes of bringing children into our family. 

We have an online profile on:

Fewer and fewer people are choosing to place their children for adoption.  When parents are determining who to place their child with, they look for people they feel will provide a wonderful home for their child.  Therefore, if someone they already know and trust can recommend a family to them, there is a greater chance they will choose to place their child with this family.  The more people are aware of our desire to adopt, the greater the likelihood our child’s birthparents will be able to find us.  In a nutshell, as with most things in life, it comes down to who you know.  :)
Therefore, if you feel you can recommend us as parents and wouldn’t mind informing your friends of our desire to adopt, we would appreciate it.  It is a little difficult for us to put ourselves out there like this, we are not big fans of mass email, and we have a hard time asking for help, but desperate times call for desperate measures.  :)

We appreciate you taking the time to read this letter and thank you for your sensitivity and understanding. 


J and R 

1 comment:

  1. Dude! Your guys' profile is a slam dunk! Gorgeous!!! I love it! Your future birthmother will too! Mucho Love!