Thursday, August 12, 2010

What to do when the Adoption Phone Rings?!?

Freak out?


Stress about it?


Use reverse phone number look up a million times trying to find out more information than what I just got?


The first time the phone rang is actually a pretty funny story.  It happened a few weeks ago at 2 in the morning.  But I didn't realize it had rung until that morning, or so I thought.  My hubby said when it rang in the middle of the night I was mad at him and kept saying, "What is that noise? and Make it stop".  I had no idea it happened.  My explanation was that the phone we have dedicated to our adoption info is one of his old phones and still has his ring on it.  So I must've thought his phone was ringing.  I live with my normal phone on silent, but obviously, I never turn our adoption phone off.  The morning I realized it had rung I of course did a white pages reverse phone number look up, and then stewed about whether or not I should call the number back.  I decided the person must've dialed the wrong number, and even if not I didn't want to call the number back, because who knows who might answer.  And then what would I say?  I had no good answer and decided if a birth parent wanted to talk to me they would call me, but I wouldn't call a back a random number if this person didn't care to leave a voice message.  And then I lectured my husband about the importance of answering the phone when it rings no matter what time it is.  LOL

The second time it rang I missed it too.  That time it was at 9 am.  I don't know how I missed it, but I did.   I have no idea what I was doing.  All I know is that I didn't hear it and I might've blown it again.  I followed my same pattern--obsessed over the reverse phone number feature on the internet and then wished and hoped and prayed this person would call me back.  No such luck.

I know this phone is not supposed to ring off the hook, but when it does ring, I wish I would be around to answer it.  I hope when a birth parent calls he or she will be brave enough to leave a voice message for us.

How does this post help me find joy?  Because I can laugh about these experiences even while wishing they had turned out differently.  And I am still trying to wait patiently for the phone to ring again.   And because it helps me know that the phone does work and that at least 2 people have called it.

Third time's the charm.

Dear adoption phone,

Please ring again, pretty please.  I promise I'll answer it next time. 

Yours truly,



  1. It's wonderful you can find humor in it...that would drive me crazy too with the wondering! Praying that phone rings again for you guys & your close by to answer it:)

  2. Dear lovely, brave pregnant woman who is trying to call jrs to talk about adoption,
    Please call her again if she doesn't pick up the first time you call. Remember what they say: If at first you don't succeed, try, try again.
    Your pal,

  3. We just used our home number, even though I know we shouldn't of for privacy reasons. But we got a phone call once. Hubs was outside checking on the food that was cooking on the grill and I answered it. I talked with the girl, and when hubs came in a gave him a HUGE grin and a thumbs up. He had no clue! I was trying to get his attention, but he was busy looking for wildlife in our field. So it wasn't until after the 10 minute phone call that I was able to tell him what was going on and he was sad he missed it. It was kinda neat to get a phone call, but even on the phone I could tell she wasn't going to choose us so it was a fun phone call, but heartbreaking at the same time.

  4. I guess it is one of those things that if it was meant to be your child, it would have happened. I know that that is really trite to, "If you were meant to have children, God would give them to you." But what I mean to say is, when you get your will be because that child needs all of the love and advice that you have been given through your life.
    I know it will ring again for you.

  5. Oh, waiting is really tough...the heart goes pitter-patter and obsession sneaks into your mind...hope that you'll receive good news sooner than later! :-D Nevertheless have a BLESSED weekend!

  6. Oh jrs I hope they call again and you don't miss it.

  7. Hey- I just found your blog and look forward to reading more of it when I find the time. My hubs and I are hoping to adopt in the future whether or not we can conceive our own baby. SO, I am excited to hear more about your adoption process and story. :)

  8. Oh, gosh. The Wait for The Ring is so hard!

    Glad you are coping with humor. Good luck to you!

  9. Oh wow! I would have been freaking out. I'm so glad you can find joy in this. But, what else can you do. That phone will ring one day (soon I hope) and you will pick up. That's going to be the perfect day!