I think so, but I wish it didn't.
Sometimes, it bothers me that when we are diagnosed with infertility the phrase that works best is, "I'm infertile." I have thought about this for a long time and wished for a better phrase. I can't think of any other medical diagnosis that when you receive it, you then become it. For example, do people say, "I'm breast cancer?", "I'm leukemia?", or "I'm kidney disease?" No. I guess some people say they're diabetic, but they can also say, "I have diabetes". And while I don't let infertility define me, sometime just the fact that when I tell people "I'm infertile" I feel like it has defined me. I know this is just semantics, but I wish there was a better phrase. I suppose if I start saying "I have infertility" maybe it would catch on, but probably not. At any rate, it would cause some confusion. And that is always fun to do with fertiles. Since adopting our child I have thought I might say, "I have overcome infertility", or "I'm an infertility survivor" like cancer survivors are able to say.
I don't know. It is just something I have thought about in the past, and again now in the present. What are your thoughts on this?
I was reminded of these thoughts I had because blogger Keiko at Hannah Wept, Sarah Laughed had a post where she wanted her readers to fill in the blank to the sentence: Infertility is...
It was interesting to read what others wrote. I added my own endings to the sentence. Here they are:
my first thought was:
infertility is exhausting
second thought was
infertility is not the winner. I beat it. I am an infertility survivor
and this sentence goes along with the 2nd thought.
infertility is not how I choose to define myself.
Do you have infertility or are you infertile? Maybe I am splitting hairs semantically, but I do think it matters at least mentally and how you view yourself and the particular brand of infertility you are fighting against.